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Divorce Mediation

Talking to Children about Divorce

Talking to children about divorce carefully and gently is critical.  It helps to find a quiet time and place, maybe after dinner, in the play yard when the children are fairly calm. The parent who is ahead of the other in the process may begin to speak first. One of two longest established, most respected […]

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Couples Therapy

Therapy Reveals ADHD Surprise

Mark and Marissa came into Couples Therapy in Lexington, Ma. when their twin daughters Jodie and Andrea were 7 years old. Mark was the director of a NGO and Marissa, a free lance writer and photographer, working very part-time while being with the children. The girls were super active; it might even be said that […]

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Decision Mediation

After an Affair: Experts Advise

Adriana and Peter Gordon had been married 9 years, and were still living together when Adriana, who had discovered her husband’s affair with his secretary, appeared in a lawyer’s office to discuss the possibility of divorce. After finding a room-service-for-two charge on Peter’s hotel bill, he admitted that he had been having a hidden affair with […]

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Decision Mediation

Defining Goals for Marital Separation

Sophie and Seth were not an ordinary couple, nor were they business executives or international diplomats, those people who often use decision-making mediation. They were extremely conscientious, dedicated parents, who were involved in their church, and in an “ethical humanist” society, where they met at Boston University. The couple sensed and then learned for certain […]

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Divorce Mediation

Alimony Deduction Finished. What to Do?

hgoldstein@gbpclawyers.com After months of uncertainty and differences between the House and Senate versions of the proposed new tax law, we now have a final decision on how it will deal with alimony. The tax deduction for  alimony is unchanged until January 1, 2019. After that alimony will no longer be tax deductible. An agreement or judgment providing […]

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Divorce Mediation

Social Security and the Graying of Divorce

senesandchwalek.com Social Security and the Graying of Divorce:   Many people overlook Social Security benefits when getting divorced. While these benefits are not assets that a divorce court can divide, the rules about benefits are relevant to your post-divorce life. This is especially true for those getting divorced in their later years. If you are divorced, […]

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Divorce Mediation

Visitation By Parents: Every Day is Possible

“The children didn’t ask for this divorce” shared the premier plasterer who scheduled his work day around meeting the children at their buses after school, doing homework with all three of them at their Mother’s home until she returned from her corporate job. Access to children and visitation by divorcing parents after divorce doesn’t mean […]

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Divorce Mediation

He gets the house after all

Anne and Sam, a couple in their early 60s, were living together three whole years until they had decided to enter divorce mediation. They were indeed stuck and absolutely miserable when they arrived here for their own custom divorce mediation. They could not decide, for the lives of them, who would keep and who would leave their […]

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Divorce Mediation

Divorce Need Not End The Family

The wisest of parents realize they can maintain their family unit after divorce. They may remain the best co-parents they can be, without needing to work at their couple relationship any more. It’s a relief. They know they are serving their children well. At age 18, I read an article in the New York Times […]