What exactly does it mean to have married the wrong person? It means everybody goes wrong. It means everybody clings to unrealistic expectations about marriage. It means the old marriage model is a failure and it is time for a new paradigm. For most of us, misconceptions and myths about romantic relationships remain unquestioned. We follow conventional guideposts because everyone else is following them. Everybody Marries the Wrong Person discusses the 20 misleading beliefs about romantic relationships and addresses the big six warning signs of users and abusers: substance abuse/dependence, mental cruelty, physical and/or sexual battery, anger, controlling behavior and under-functioning/under-responsibility. This helpful guide discusses the eight basics of mature love and four behavioral goals that a healthy marriage requires. Healthy marriages develop as we manage personal expectations and reactions, focus on partners strengths, and choose to be both loving and lovable.